Tips to Boost your Self-Esteem by Kryssie Fortune @KryssieFortune #RLFblog #amwritingScared to step out of your comfort zone? Hate to say “no”?

That sums up Kathryn Johnson, heroine in my book, Submission, Secrets, and the Soldier has had her self-esteem squished out of her by her domineering mother. The middle one of three girls, she trained to be a ballet dancer but she grew too tall.

Having lost her dream, Kathryn struggled to find her role in the family. Instead, she spent her time making life run smoother for her sisters. It became a habit, and twelve years later, she still puts her family’s needs before her own. Then, her third ever time at a BDSM club goes horribly wrong.

Kathryn found these tips helped.

Fake it until you make it.

Standing tall, head up, chest out and arms propped on hips for just two minutes releases testosterone, a confidence inducing hormone. At the same time, your cortisol level drops and you’ll feel less stressed. As one psychology professor put it, Our bodies can change our minds.

Think—and act—positively

Your body can change your mind, but so can you. A smile lifts my spirits every time. Want another example? Concentrate on what you want rather than what you don’t want. And go for it.

Master a new skill

Start small. You don’t need to do everything overnight. Learn to laugh at your mistakes and persevere. You’ll get there in time.

Set boundaries

Do you feel guilty if you say no? I do. Decide how you want people to treat you. Don’t try to fix other people. Instead take responsibility for yourself and if someone doesn’t accept that, walk away.

Take pride in yourself and your achievements.

This is the hard one. Worked hard to learn something? Then decide a million people know more. That’s me. I even dismiss my writing as just erotic romance sometimes. I work damned hard at it so I should stand loud and proud and tell people about it. I guess I’m saying, don’t follow my example.

Talking of writing, please check out my fourth stand-alone, Heroes of Westhopre Ridge novel, Submission, Secrets, and the Soldier.

Submission, Secrets, and the Soldier

Luke Roberts, a former army mechanic, has a new sub. She’s shy and inexperienced, but willing. As he teaches her about sensation play, she fears he’ll really hurt her and screams her safewords at him. Her reaction causes Luke to have a flashback. Although he’s clawing his way back to normal, he suffers from PTSD. Determined to get well, he contacts a PTSD specialist in Westhorpe Ridge.

Kathryn Johnson has visited a BDSM club three times. When she hooks up with Luke Roberts, he unintentionally terrifies her. She swears off spankings and goes home to Westhorpe Ridge. The last person she expects to see there is Luke Roberts. Circumstances force them to share an apartment. Can Luke protect her when danger threatens? Or is she just a temporary sub in residence?

Genre Erotic Romance
Book heat level (based on movie ratings): R
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Kryssie Fortune writes the sort of hot sexy books she loves to read. If she can sneak a dragon into her paranormal books she will. Her paranormal heroes are muscular werewolves, arrogant Fae, or BDSM loving dragons.

Kryssie likes her contemporary heroes ex-military and dominant. Her heroines are kick ass females who can hold their own against whatever life – or Kryssie – throws at them.

Kryssie’s pet hates are unhappy endings, and a series that end on a cliff hanger.

Her books are all stand-alone even when part of series. Plot always comes before sex, but when her heroines and heroes get together, the sex is explosive and explicit. One review called it downright sensual.

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